He aha te mea pai mena kaore i pa katoa o whaainga ki a koe i tenei tau

Toka Te Manawa

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He whainga ta tatou katoa. He iti noa nga mea o ia ra (penei, "Ka oma ahau kia kotahi maero ake i tenei ra"), katahi ano ka nui ake nga whainga mo te tau roa ka whakahiatotia e matou ki raro i te tapanga whakamataku "whakatau." I a koe e whakatakoto ana i o whakatau mo te tau 2016, kua whakaaro pea koe i tenei wa, 12 marama i muri mai, kua heke to rahi na runga i to taumahatanga. whakapae ki te ngaro, ki te mea kua whakakorehia e koe o hiahia tiakarete hei pai. Anei matou kei te taha o te tau 2017, tera pea kaore koe i te tata ki hea koe i whakaaro ai. Akene kua roa atu i te wa e tumanakohia ana, akene kua mohio koe kaore rawa e puta.

Kei te pai tena. "I etahi wa karekau e tutuki nga whakataunga," e kii ana a Gina Van Luven, he kaikorero hauora, he kaituhi, he kaiako. I te nuinga o nga wa ka tupu tera, ka whiua koe. A ko taua mahi, ki te whakaaro koe, kaore koe e tata atu ki te eke ki o whainga. Ka kino noa koe. "Ko te patu i a koe ano he tino hinga i a koe ano," ko ta Van Luven.

He otinga pai ake: Rapua he huarahi hei neke whakamua. E ai ki a Erin Clifford, he kaiako oranga mo te katoa, he rite ki te whawhai ki to hoa. E mohio ana koe ehara i te mea pai ki te whakahoki ano i taua tautohetohe i nga wa katoa, a me penei ano te whakaaro ina kore koe e tutuki i o whainga. "Kaore e awhina i tetahi ki te patu i a raatau ano mo nga mea kaore i puta i mua," ko tana korero.

Ka whakamatautauria koe ki te karo i nga whakama katoa ma te peke i nga whakataunga i tenei tau. Engari he mea nui ki te hanga whainga me te mahi ki a raatau, ahakoa kaore koe e tutuki. "Ko tetahi o aku korero tino pai ko te, 'Ko te korero mo te ahunga whakamua ehara i te tino pai,'" e kii ana a Clifford. (E pa ana: 25 Tohunga Ka tohatoha i o raatau tohutohu kia tutuki i tetahi whaainga)

Me kii i timata koe i te tau me te whainga kia ngaro te 10 pauna, a kua ngaro koe i te tokorua anake. "Whakanuia te 2 pauna i ngaro koe!" Hei ki a Van Luven. Ko to whainga whakaheke taumaha pea i awhina koe ki te hanga i etahi tikanga hauora ake. Akene kua pa i a koe inaianei i te whare omaoma i nga waa katoa, kei te hiahia ranei koe ki te huamata mo nga tiihi tiihi. He mea whakahīhī ērā, ahakoa he aha te kōrero a te tauine. "He pai nga whiringa ka mahia i roto i te mahi e whai hua ai te wheako, no reira kia aro ki aua mea," ta Van Luven.

I muri i to whakaaro ki nga mea kua riro ia koe tika, whakaarohia he aha i kore ai e eke nga whainga ki a koe. "Ki te kore koe e tutuki i o whaainga, me patai koe he aha," ta Van Luven. He tiketike rawa te whaainga, he kore ranei e taea te whanganga? Kore rawa i tino tika? I whakauaua e koe mo koe ano? "Koinei te mahi makutu: te keri me te whakaaro he aha koe i pai ai te whiriwhiri i nga whiringa hauora," ta Van Luven.

Tangohia ena akoranga ka whakamahi ki te hanga i o whakataunga mo te 2017. Me tiimata ma te tino whakarite ka taea. Mena kei te pirangi koe ki te whakaheke taumaha, rukuhia te nui e hiahia ana koe ki te ngaro me pehea koe e mahi ai. "Koinei te take i rahua te nuinga o nga whakataunga me nga whaainga o te iwi i mua, mena kaore he mahere tuuturu," hei ki ta Clifford. Ka uru koe ki te whare takaro, ka utu ranei i tetahi kaiwhakangungu? Ka pekehia ranei to parakuihi o mua ka mahia he oatmeal? Whakatakotoria he mahere whaitake, me te whakarite kia pai te mahi ki to oranga. Hei tauira, mena ehara koe i te tangata o te ata, kaua e kaha ki te mahi i mua o te pane ki te tari, hei ki ta Clifford.

Uia koe he aha te mea nui ki a koe taua whakatau. Akene he whakaata (E taunaki ana a Clifford ki te tuhi pukapuka ki te whakaputa i to "he aha"), engari ko te tohu i te take kei muri o te whaainga tera pea ka awhina koe ki te hihiri i te wa e uaua ana nga wa. Ka taea hoki e koe te noho i runga i te huarahi ma te whakaata i te ahua o to oranga ka eke koe ki te whainga. Tuhia etahi whakaaro ki roto i taua hautaka, tuhia ranei nga korero whakahihiri, whakaahua ranei ki te taha o to whare, ki runga ranei i to kaaahi waka ka kitea e koe ia ra, e ai ki a Clifford. Ka mutu, kimihia he mema o te whanau, he hoa ranei ka uru mai ki a koe me te pupuri i a koe hei kawenga. "E rite ana ratou ki o kaiwhakangahau," e kii ana a Clifford.

Kaua e whakaaro mo tetahi atu tuarua mo te aha kaore tupu i te tau 2016. He tau hou tenei, a ka tiimata mai i te tiimata. "Kua pumau koe inaianei," ko ta Clifford te korero. "Kei te timata koe inaianei." A i nga ra katoa ka whakatata atu koe ki nga mea katoa i whakaritea e koe ki te whakatutuki, he wikitoria i roto i a koe ano.

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