He aha te 'Whakamaumarama Motuhake' me Me pehea taku Maatauranga?
Toka Te Manawa
- He pehea te ahua o te whakamarama ake?
- He mohio tenei? Ki te penei, kei te hiahia ahau ki te tono atu kia okioki koe mo tetahi wa poto nei.
- Ahakoa pehea te wehe, te whakama ranei o to whakaaro ki a koe, kia mahara kaore koe i noho takitahi - ana kaore koe i haurangi!
Kao, kaore koe i te "tino aro."
"Ka nui noa atu taku mahi…"
I tenei wa, ko te whakamarama i te rama hei kaupapa e mohiotia whanui ana, engari ko tona takenga mai hei awhina i a tatou ki te aata whakamaarama.
I whanau mai i tetahi kiriata tawhito ka hurihia e te tane he rama iti ki raro i nga po katoa hei whakararuraru i tana wahine. Ka whakakahoretia e ia tana kitenga i tana huringa o te maramara me te atarangi ma te kii ko nga mea katoa kei tona mahunga.
Ka mahi ano ia i etahi atu mea, kia whakaaro ia kua "ngaro" ia, penei i te huna i nga taonga me te tohe kua ngaro ia ia.
He whakamarama tenei: He momo tuukino aronganui me te raweke i mahia ki runga i tetahi ki te patapatai i o raatau ake whakaaro, kare, pono, tae atu ki te hinengaro.
I a au e mahi tahi ana me nga kaihoko maha e tautoko ana i o raatau maatauranga me te whakaputa i waho o tenei tikanga hinengaro, kua maarama ahau i enei ra ko te mahi taima, ko te whakamaarama o te hinu ka tino uru ki roto.
Ka huri ki te ahua o taku e kiia nei he whakamarama ake - he maha nga wa e puta mai ana i roto i te waa, i nga ra katoa, i te paatai ia ia ano me te pakaru o te maia.
He pehea te ahua o te whakamarama ake?
Ko te whakamarama i a koe ano he ahua rite ki te pehi i te whakaaro me te kare a roto.
Hei tauira, me kii tetahi e kii ana i tetahi mea koretake, mamae ranei. Ka kite pea koe i te pouri o kare a roto, engari - i te wa tonu me te kore ohorere - ka whakaaro koe: "Akene kei te nui rawa atu taku mahi, me te aro nui."
Ko te raru? Ka pekepeke koe mai i te tohu A ki te tohu C me te kore e whakaroa ki te maarama ki te B i waenga-o - o kare-a-roto tino whai mana e whai mana ana koe ki te whakarongo me te whakaputa!
Na me pehea taatau mahi ki te whakawero i tenei momo whakamaarama? He ngawari te tinihanga: Ka whakapumautia e maatau o maatau wheako me o maatau kare.
| Rama | Rama-ake | Whakaaetanga o waho |
| "He tino whakaari koe, kare a roto, ngawari, haurangi ranei koe!" | He tino whakaari ahau, kare a roto, ngawari me te haurangi. | Ko aku kare me aku kare e mana. |
| "Kare au i penei te korero; kei te whakanui koe. " | Kei te mohio ahau he aroha ki ahau kaore au i te penei. | Kei te maarama au ki te reo taketake me nga kupu i whakaputaina e ratau, a e mohio ana ahau ki taku ahua. |
| "Kei roto katoa i tou mahunga." | Akene kei roto noa i taku mahunga nga mea katoa !? | Ko aku wheako he pono, he whaihua, ahakoa kei te tarai etahi atu ki te raweke, ki te whakaponohia ranei. |
| "Mena he nui ake / iti iho o _____ koe, ka rere ke tenei." | He nui rawa ahau / kaore i rahi. He he kei ahau. | Kaore au e tino nui. Ka makona tonu ahau! |
| “Naau i timata! Na koutou katoa tenei he. | Ko taku he tonu. | Kaore he mea "he he katoa ki ahau." Ko tetahi e whakapae ana i te whakapae ki ahau e kore e pono. |
| "Mena i aroha koe ki ahau ka mahi koe i tenei / kaore koe i penei." | He arohanui ahau ki a ratou na me mahi noa tenei. He aha ahau i penei ai ki a raatau? | Kaore he mea kino ki ahau me te ahua o taku whakaatu i taku aroha, engari he mea kino kei roto i tenei hononga paitini kaha. |
He mohio tenei? Ki te penei, kei te hiahia ahau ki te tono atu kia okioki koe mo tetahi wa poto nei.
Mahia he manawa hohonu. Ite i te whenua i raro i a koe.
Whakahokia mai i muri i ahau: “He tika aku kare a roto me te tika ki te whakaputa i au.”
Kia mahara kei te teka tenei i te wa tuatahi. Tukuna koe kia hiahia ki tenei haangai me te whakahua i tenei korero tae atu ki te tiimata o te pono (akene he mahinga tenei ka pa ki te waa kaore i te tika i tenei waa tonu - ka pai hoki!)
Muri iho, ka tono atu ahau ki a koe kia whakaputa i tetahi pukaiti, pepa pepa waatea ranei, ka tiimata ki te tuhi i nga mea katoa e puta ake ana ki a koe i tenei wa - kaore he whakatau, he aha ranei me piri atu te tikanga ki a ia.
he akiaki mo te torotoro i te whakamarama akeKa taea hoki e koe te torotoro i enei kare a roto ma te whakautu ki nga tohu e whai ake nei (ahakoa na roto i te kupu, te tuhi / toi, te nekehanga ranei):
- Na te aha te mahi o te whakamarama ake i ora ai au i mua? Na te aha i awhina ai i ahau ki te tuukui?
- Me pehea te kore e whaaia e te miihini-takitahi te mahi maau i tenei waa (a muri ake nei)? Me pehea e whara ai ahau?
- He aha tetahi mea ka taea e au inaianei ki te whakamahi i te atawhai-a-tangata?
- Me pehea taku ahua i roto i taku tinana i ahau e tirotiro ana i tenei?
Ahakoa ko te whakamarama ake i a maatau ano pea i awhina i a maatau ki te urutau ki nga ahuatanga paitini, ki nga hononga ranei, ka taea e taatau te whakahonore i tenei pukenga ora me te ako tonu ki te tuku mai i o taatau waa.
Ahakoa pehea te wehe, te whakama ranei o to whakaaro ki a koe, kia mahara kaore koe i noho takitahi - ana kaore koe i haurangi!
Ko te Gaslighting he taatai tino kino mo te hinengaro ka kaha te whakauru ki roto. Ana ka tiimata ke koe ki te whakapono he pono ake koe, ehara i te mea pono!
E mohio ana koe ki to pono - ana ka kite ahau ka whakahonorehia e au. Ko te whakahonore i a koe ano he mahi, me te maia hoki ki tera.
He maamaa koe me te pakari o AF, a ka nui taku whakapehapeha ki a koe mo te tango i te wa ki te tirotiro i tenei tuhinga me te tirotiro ki a koe ano. Ahakoa he whakamataku te ahua.
Ko Rachel Otis he kaihaumanu somatic, he wahine tino hononga i waenga i te wahine, he tangata whakakao i te tinana, he morehu mate a Crohn, me te kaituhi i puta mai i te California Institute of Integral Studies i San Francisco me tana tohu paerua ki te matapae i te hinengaro. E whakapono ana a Rahera, me whai waahi ki te neke haere i nga ahuatanga o te hapori, i a ia e whakanui ana i te tinana i ona ahuatanga ataahua katoa. Kei te waatea nga huihuinga i runga i te tauine reti, ma te tele-therapy. Pa atu ki a ia ma te Instagram.
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