I tino whakamaramatia e tenei wahine te rereketanga o te aroha-whaiaro me te pai o te tinana

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He tika te katoa ki te aroha ki te kiri o roto. He korero pai tena ma te katoa e whakaae, tika? Engari ko te ICYDK, ko te aroha ki a koe ano me te mahi i te pai o te tinana ehara i te mea kotahi.

Ahakoa he rite tonu, he rereketanga kei waenga i te aroha ki a koe ano me te pai o te tinana—he korero i tukuna ki te aro o Nicole, o Nix Fitness. I haere ia ki te Instagram ki te korero kua kii ia ko te pai o te tinana "ehara i a ia" na te mea he wahine "kikokore" ia.

"I te timatanga, i tino pouri ahau, i pororaru au i te rongonga i tenei," i tuhia e ia i tana pou. "'Karekau he tika ki te katoa ki te aroha ki te tinana kei roto ratou? Ko te ahua karekau e tino uru ana' i whakaaro ahau." (E pa ana: He aha te raruraru nui o te whakama-tinana-me te aha ka taea e koe ki te aukati)

Ka mau a Nicole ki a ia ano kia nui ake tana rangahau mo te pai o te tinana kia maarama ai ia ki te kaupapa o te kaupapa. (E pa ana: Ehara ahau i te tinana pai, i te tinana kino ranei—Ko ahau anake)

"I mohio ahau kua he katoa ahau," ko tana tuhi. "Ae, he mana to te katoa ki te aroha ki o ratau tinana engari ehara tera i te pai o te tinana, he aroha ki a ia ano. He rereke ano."

Ko te tino kaupapa o te kaupapa-a-tinana ko te whakatenatena i nga tangata whai tinana iti (curvy, queer, trans, tinana o te tae, me etahi atu) kia kaua e mahi i te aroha-whaiaro anake engari kia rongo. tika mo te aroha-ki a ia ano, na Sarah Sapora, he kaiarahi mo te aroha ki a ia ano me te kaitautoko o te oranga, i korero mai ki a maatau. Heoi, i te mea ka "nui ake te whanuitanga me te hokohoko," ko tana kaupapa tuatahi kua "whakamakuku" me te kawe i nga tikanga maha, e ai ki a Sapora.

Ko te whakakotahi i te "ahuatanga tinana" me te "aroha-whaiaro" ka kore e aro ki nga uauatanga kua pa ki te hunga whai tinana mo nga tau maha. "Ko te pai o te tinana ehara i te mea mo te kikokore, te tika, te kirikiri, nga wahine ma, kua pai ki te 10 pauna ki runga i o raatau papa," ko ta Stacey Rosenfeld, Ph.D., he kaimätai hinengaro whai raihana me te tohunga tinana, i korero mai ki a matou i roto i te tata nei. uiuinga.

He rite tonu te whakatau a Nicole: "I te mea he tangata kaore ano kia uru ki roto i te tinana kua whakahaweatia, kaore e taea e au te kii ko te whakanui i taku kopu ngawari ko te 'tino pai', he aroha noa ki a ia ano," ko tana korero. i tuhituhi. "Ahakoa kei te whai mana tonu o tatou whakamaaramatanga, ki taku whakaaro he mea nui kia mohio tatou ki te rereketanga na te mea na te kore e tutuki, ka kore te reo o te iwi i hanga ai te kaupapa." (E pa ana: Ka taea e koe te aroha ki to tinana ka hiahia tonu koe ki te huri?)

Raina Raro: Ka taea e koe te aroha ki a koe ano a kia pai te tinana—kia mohio noa he rereke nga kupu e rua mai i tetahi. Ahakoa ko te aroha-whaiaro he mea ka taea e koe te mahi i roto me te whakatenatena i etahi atu ki te mahi, ko te pai o te tinana ko te noho hei hoa mo te hunga whai tinana iti, te karanga i te mana tinana ina kite koe, me te whakawero i nga whakaaro o mua mo te mana Tuhinga o mua.

I roto i te mahi, ko te tikanga ko te tirotiro i o ake ake paanga e pa ana ki te tinana me te tuku waahi ki etahi atu kia rongohia o ratou reo, ka kii a Sapora ki a matou. "Mena he tangata hiroki koe, he tangata ranei e uru ana ki te 'tikanga' o te hapori, kia kore to reo me to korero tinana e paremo i nga reo me nga korero o te hunga kare i te maangai," ka whakamarama ia.

Ko Katie Willcox, he tauira, he kaituhi, he kaiwhakaara hoki mo te Healthy Is The New Skinny, e kii ana hei tauira: "Ka taea e koe te whakahaere i taau mahi kaua ma te kauwhau, te whakawa, te whakaatu ranei i te ora tino pai i runga i te Instagram, engari ma te waiho hei tauira ora mo tetahi. te hunga e aroha ana ki a ratou ano, e noho ana i runga i te ahua o te ahua o waho."

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