5 nga huarahi hei tautoko i te tangata e arohaina ana e tohe ana ki te pouri

Toka Te Manawa

• 1. Whakaakona
• 2. Whakamahia te tiaki i a koe ano
• 3. A ani ia ratou he aha ta ratou e hiahia ana
• 4. Kaua e waiho hei puna tautoko anake
• 5. Kaua e whakahee, e whakawa ranei
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Mena he rite koe ki te maha o nga wahine, kei te pirangi koe kia kite nga tangata e aroha ana koe ki nga waahanga pai o koe. I taku tamarikitanga, i pera taku mama. I huna e ia ona wero katoa mai i a maatau-tae atu ki tana pakanga ki te pouri. Ko ia nga mea katoa ki ahau. I taku wa ka pakeke ahau ka maarama ka mohio ahau ki tana waahanga kua huna e ia-ana ka huri ke nga mahi.

I taku pakeketanga, i kite ahau i te kaha o te pouri o toku whaea ki te whakahaere. I te mutunga ka ngana ia ki te whakamate i a ia, a kaore tetahi o taku whanau i kite e haere mai ana. I muri i tana nganatanga, ka ngaro ahau, ka riri me te raruraru. I hapa au i tetahi mea? Me pehea e kore ai ahau e mohio he aha nga mea tera kino? He aha atu ano aku mahi hei awhina i a ia? He roa ahau i tohe ki aua patai. I hiahia au ki te mohio mena he mea ka taea e au te mahi rereke. I hiahia ano ahau ki te mohio he aha taku mahi mo te ahu whakamua. I tino wehi ahau ka kitea ano ia e ia i roto i taua waahi pouri.

I nga tau mai i tana whakamatau whakamomori, he puna tautoko tonu ahau mo taku mama, hei awhina i a ia ki te whakahaere i tona hauora hinengaro me te tinana. Ahakoa, ahakoa te whiu o muri, te mate pukupuku, me etahi atu take hauora, ko tana hauora hinengaro tonu te mea uaua o te panga. Koina te mamae nui o taua.

I roto i te 2015, 6.7 ōrau o te taupori pakeke US i te iti rawa i te iti rawa o te wahanga pouri nui, e ai ki te National Institute of Mental Health. A ko te tautoko i te hoa aroha e pouri ana ehara i te mea ngawari. Akene he uaua ki te rapu i a koe me korero, me mahi ranei. I raru ahau mo tera mo etahi wa. I hiahia ahau ki te noho ki reira mo ia, engari kaore au i tino mohio me pehea. I muri iho, ua taa ia ’u e e tia ia’ u ako me pehea ki reira mo ia.

Mena he tangata e arohaina ana e raru ana ki te pouri, anei nga tohutohu hei arahi i te huarahi.

1. Whakaakona

"Kaore e taea e koe te whakatika i te raru kia mohio ra koe he aha te raru, no reira ko te tautuhi i te take he awhina nui," e kii ana a Bergina Isbell, M.D., he tohunga hinengaro-whaimana poari. "Te whakatau mena kei te pouri tonu te pouri, te pouri mo te mea kua mate, ko te pouri haumanu ranei ka awe i to huarahi." Na, ko te mea tuatahi, "kitea he aha nga mea e whakararuraru ana i to hoa, i to hoa aroha ranei," hei tana. Mena he pouri haumanu, he mea nui te ako i a koe ano, e ai ki a Indira Maharaj-Walls, LMSW. I te nuinga o te wa ka whakaarohia e te tangata te pouri he pouri e mau ana, engari karekau ratou e mohio ki te mahi o te pouri me te uaua o te whawhai; ka awhina te matauranga ki te karo i nga pohehe me te tuku i a koe ki te whakarato tautoko ake, e ai ta Maharaj-Walls.

Ko te Awangawanga me te Paheketanga o Amerika he puna korero nui. Kei te kii a Takuta Isbell hoki mo te Hauora Hinengaro o Amerika mo nga korero okawa mo te pouri, pouri, me etahi atu rauemi matauranga hinengaro. (E pa ana: I mohio koe e 4 nga momo mate pouri?)

2. Whakamahia te tiaki i a koe ano

"Ko te manaaki i te tangata e pa ana ki te pouri he mea pouri," e kii ana te tohunga hinengaro a Mayra Figueroa-Clark, LCSW. Ma te whakarite ka taea e koe te tiaki i a koe ano i nga wa katoa, he hononga ki tetahi hapori o te iwi whakaaro kotahi, me te mohio ka kii "kaore" he tino atu he mea nui atu i a koe e mohio ana, e ai ki a Figueroa-Clark. Ki te hiahia tatou ki te awhina i nga mea e arohaina ana e taatau, ehara i te mea noa kia warewarehia o taatau ake hiahia. Kia maumahara ki te tuku pono i tetahi e arohaina ana e koe he awhina, me tuupato koe-ko te tikanga o te tiaki i a koe ina hiahia ana koe. (He Korero: Me Pehea Te Whakaora i Te Wa mo Te Tiakitanga Takitahi Ki Te Kore A Koe)

3. A ani ia ratou he aha ta ratou e hiahia ana

Ahakoa he ngawari noa te patai ki tetahi he aha ana hiahia, ka warewarehia e nga hoa e hiahia ana ki te awhina. Ko te mea pono, ka taea e koe te tuku tautoko pai rawa ma te paatai ​​noa ki te tangata e aroha ana koe ki nga mea e hiahiatia ana e raatau. "I tetahi taha, ko te ahuatanga o o ratau mauiui tera pea kaore i te tino mohio he aha te mea hei awhina i a raatau, engari i etahi waa, ka taea e raatau te whakaatu he aha nga awhina me nga mea kaore e whara," hei ki ta Glenna Anderson, LCSW. Me hoatu e koe te waahi ki to hoa aroha ki te korero pono ki a koe mo nga mea e hiahiatia ana e ia me te pai ki te mahi, ahakoa koe kaua e whakaaro he mea nui tera he aha ranei te mea e hiahiatia ana e koe i roto i taua ahuatanga, e ai ki ta Anderson. Uia nga patai ka taea e koe te tuku i nga mea e tino hiahiatia ana.

4. Kaua e waiho hei puna tautoko anake

Tau ki muri, i taku tiimata ki te maarama ki nga uaua o te pouri o toku whaea, ka mohio au ka noho ko ia anake te puna tautoko. Kei te mohio ahau inaianei kaore i ea tenei whakaritenga mo maua tokorua. "Whakaarohia nga roopu tautoko ma roto i te National Alliance on Mental Illness," e kii ana a Takuta Isbell. Ka whakaekea e ratau nga roopu whanau ki te ako i a koe mo te mate hinengaro me nga roopu hoa mo te hunga e pa ana ki te ngakau pouri hei awhina i te tiimata o te awhina, e kii ana a Takuta Isbell. Me whai hapori hoa, whanau hoki koe hei awhina i a koe ki te tautoko i to hoa aroha. "Whakamaherehia he hui kia kite mena kei te waatea etahi atu ki te mahi mea iti," e kii ana a Figueroa-Clark. Ko nga mea katoa mai i te urunga mai me te waea waea ki te whakarite kai ka awhina i te tautoko i tetahi hoa e raru ana, ka whakamarama a Figueroa-Clark. Kia mahara noa kaua ko koe anake te tangata e whakarato ana i tenei tautoko. Ahakoa ko te tangata e whawhai ana i te pouri ko to matua, ko to hoa rangatira ranei, kaore koe e mahi ko koe anake. "Kia tuwhera, kia waatea hoki ki te whakarongo, engari whakaarahia tenei me te hiahia ki te awhina i a raatau ki te toro atu ki nga awhina ngaio," e kii ana a Takuta Isbell.

5. Kaua e whakahee, e whakawa ranei

Ko te whakahe, ko te whakawa ranei i te nuinga o te wa kaore i te tupono, engari he nui te whara. "Kaua rawa e whakahee, e whakaiti ranei i o raatau kare-a-roto na te mea ka nui ake te kino," e kii ana a Maharaj-Walls. Engari, kia kaha ki te whakaatu aroha. Ka whai wa koe ki te tuu i a koe ki te turanga o tetahi atu, ka tirohia koe e te tangata he puna haumaru o te aroha me te tautoko. Ehara tenei i te tikanga me whakaae koe ki nga whiringa kua mahia e ratau, engari me tuku e koe he waahi ki te whakaraerae me te kore e awangawanga mo te whakautu kino mai i a koe, e kii ana ia. "Whakarongo me te taringa atawhai," e kii ana a Takuta Isbell. "Ko te oranga o to hoa he ahua tino pai mai i waho, engari kaore koe i te mohio he aha ta raatau mahi i mua, kei te mahi ranei inaianei." Ehara i te mea he rite tonu te ahua o nga mea, na reira me tuku tautoko me te kore e whakahengia.

Mena he pouri koe ko tetahi e arohaina ana kei te whakaaro koe ki te whakamomori, waea atu ki te National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

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